“When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon
I love this quote, and it also crystallises my thoughts from this documentary I watched last night. I really enjoy watching documentaries and yesterday I watched one called “I Am Not Your Guru” from Netflix, it’s about “Date with Destiny” seminars run by Tony Robbins. I really admire Tony and I think he is very inspirational, so I was really looking forward to this. When I started the film I was a bit sceptical, as it had lots of American hype (which doesn’t go down that well with a Finnish audience) so I wasn’t sure if it would be too much, and another thing that annoyed me a bit was his language. Why so much swearing? But to be honest, when the film started, I forgot about it quickly and in the end, it was a really powerful film and I would recommend it to you all.
The film aroused a lot of thoughts but also many questions. The most important question was about happiness. So what really makes us happy?
1. Design your own life
I believe there are still lots of people who are just taking it how it comes and not really designing their lives. Brian Tracy actually believes that only 3% have made a written plan about their lives. It might be because people have never tried it or maybe they just don’t believe that it could work.
But why not to give it a try? As there is nothing to lose. At least for me it works, so why not write down your clear goals (where do you want to get to) and how you could get there, could reading books help, maybe finding a mentor who has already achieved those things, just write them down, so simple. Some people are more visual and prefer vision boards, so printing out pictures of the things you would like to achieve and then hanging them somewhere where you can see them on a daily basis.
But it’s important to remember that it does not happen overnight. Your mind is like a muscle, you need to train it everyday. By doing these things your mind will start unconsciously working towards your goals and soon you will start noticing all the small opportunities around you that will create the steps you need to execute your plans. When you are living the life you have planned and that you have dreamed about, there is definitely a bigger chance for you to be happy.
2. How to turn your biggest challenges into superpowers?
What things have you gone through? What challenges have you experienced? How can you turn those into superpowers?
For example, I have dyslexia, which is really annoying as it slows me down when I need to read, write or for example learn a language. But that has allowed me to learn how to be more creative, like how can I learn in a different way. This has also helped me to understand that we are all different, we all have our own challenges and we just need to find a way that suits for us. I also believe that this realisation is one of the reasons I have discovered my passion towards changing the world of education.
Without the problems and challenges we have experienced we wouldn’t be who we are today. We wouldn’t be as strong or as clear about the direction we have chosen. So let’s be grateful for all those things as those problems have helped us to create superpowers that we wouldn’t have discovered otherwise.
3. Be grateful
We all have lots of things we should be grateful for, but we don’t often think about those things. There are many ways do this, some people have gratitude rocks, they carry a small rock with them and every time they touch it, they will think about something they are grateful for. Personally, before I go to sleep I always think about three things that I am grateful for, it just makes me so calm and happy, a perfect way to put you in the right mood before falling asleep.
Or why not to write them down? Like I have done.
I am so grateful…
- for having parents and a family that have always loved and cared for me unconditionally no matter what
- to have an amazing boyfriend who teaches me everyday how to love and be loved
- for having friends who I have always been able to share my wildest dreams, friends who have believed in me and supported me in achieving those dreams
- for all the opportunities I have got in my life that has allowed me to grow and to shape me into who I am today and to people who have seen potential in me and supported me along the way
After thinking about all these amazing things that I am grateful for, how couldn’t I be happy? Please give them a try and let me know how they work out for you!